This podcast episode is a rich, compassionate exploration of the multifaceted nature of personal boundaries and attachment dynamics in relationships. Silvy Khoucasian, a relationship coach, emphasizes that boundary work is not just about creating firm walls, but also learning when to soften them to foster deeper connection and intimacy. She shares how her own upbringing in a household where emotional boundaries were often crossed sparked her path toward understanding boundary violations—whether emotional, intellectual, physical, or spiritual—and how to recognize and articulate them in non-shaming ways. Silvy introduces the concept of boundaries as an “energetic field” that protects the integrity of the self and explains how early childhood experiences, especially in family systems, shape our boundary sensitivities and attachment patterns. She highlights the often-overlooked nuances of intellectual and spiritual boundary violations and stresses the importance of validating one’s own inner experiences even when others don't.

The conversation also dives into attachment styles, with Silvy outlining the foundations of secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant attachment, explaining how these dynamics are often born out of early interactions with caregivers. Together with host Erin Doppelt, they explore the cultural influence of people-pleasing, particularly for women, and how relational healing requires awareness, self-regulation, and choosing relationships that offer “corrective healing experiences.” Silvy introduces practical tools to support both anxious and avoidant individuals—ranging from emotional regulation before dates to practicing vulnerability and discernment in choosing partners. The episode leaves listeners with a hopeful and grounded message: that while perfect security may not exist, we can all build secure-functioning patterns through self-awareness, communication, and intentional relationship choices.

Silvy Khoucasian is a renowned expert in intimate relationships and boundaries. With a Master's Degree in Psychology, Marriage & Family Therapy, and as the Founder of Love With Integrity Podcast, Silvy helps people expand their relationship skills -- which includes the expression of boundaries, vulnerability, and their attachment awareness in order to create fulfilling and reciprocal relationships. Silvy's expertise will help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your patterns in relationships. Through her approach, which combines psychology and spirituality, she will guide you toward feeling empowered and assertive in your life and relationship choices.

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